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The Working Mother Experience is a 250 page glossy coffee table book that contains nearly 100 essays written by EMC women (and one man) from around the world. The essayists share their candid perspectives on being working mothers in our fast-paced business environment.

Working Mother Experience Book (in PDF)

Thursday
Nov112010

Terez Howard Installment #3

Why I Will Never Go Back To The Newspaper

By Terez Howard

 

“Why do you want to get into this grimy business?”

 

That’s one question my former employer asked me when I interviewed for my previous job. I love to write, love people, and I wanted to share what I loved to do with others.

 

So, for nearly three years, that’s what I did as community editor. I laid out, provided content and edited my own page every day of the week, except for Sundays when I wrote a feature story. I covered meetings, took pictures and interacted with many great people.

 

I loved my job. I adored the people I worked with. So why will I never return to that scene?

 

Here are a few reasons you might suspect. First off, the office has transformed. The people now are different, very different. Second, the pay was lousy, and I mean embarrassingly low for college graduates. Third, the benefits were virtually nonexistent. Fourth, the hours were not great. I’m a strictly 8 to 4 girl. While these reasons compel me to stay away from working for a newspaper again, they are not on top.

 

My No. 1 reason is: I want to stay home with my daughter. Granted, she can be trying. Micah, a 3-year-old, threw a serious tantrum, complete with the shrilly scream, like nails on chalkboard, when I told her she couldn’t play with her Leapster because we were going to eat dinner.

 

But I love getting to really watch her grow, seeing her transform from this immobile infant to a

rambunctious, talkative preschooler. That, I wouldn’t trade for the world.



Friday
Oct292010

Terez Howard Installment #2

What I’ve Learned From Raising A Biracial Baby

By Terez Howard

I’m black, and my husband is white.  We have an interracial 3-year-old daughter. 

Our daughter does not look like the typical mixed kid with bronzish skin and wavy hair.  (I think that’s typical in most people’s minds).  No, our daughter’s milky complexion is no darker than a fully Caucasian person, and her curls shrink up to about two inches long, even though they stretch past her shoulders.

We get quite a few stares when my daughter, Micah, and I go in public.  People look curiously at this fair-skinned child and back at my dark skin in wonderment.  I’ve also been told that I look like a teenager, even though I’m 26.  So do people think I’m a teenager babysitting someone else’s kid?

It can be unnerving.  In the end, I’ve learned to not sweat the stares because people mostly are plain curious.

To help them understand my relationship to my daughter, I act as a loving mother.  And, I don’t mean to imply that I’m fake.  I talk to my Micah about everything as we stroll down Kroger’s aisles.  I give her plenty of hugs and kisses when stop at Tim Horton’s.  We act like ourselves, mother and daughter, wherever we go, a fact that doesn’t escape notice.

As any mother, I want my daughter to be comfortable in her own skin, even though it’s much different from mine.  I’ve found the best way to teach this is by example.  I have to be comfortable with myself.

This confidence spills into my work.  I don’t scrutinize over words or possible unpleasant reactions.  When I write, I’m honest.  I like to give the unvarnished truth.

 



Saturday
Sep182010

Introducing Terez Howard

I have reached out to a STAY AT HOME Mom to give this blog some balance.  I will continue to post from the working mother perspective, but I look forward to a series of posts from a different perspective.  Enjoy!
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My name is Terez Howard.  I'm a freelance writing, stay-at-home mom.  I live in Ohio with my daughter, Micah, 3 going on 30, and my husband, Ethan, a professional violinist stuck in an Orchestra teacher's body.  I've been writing professionally for about 10 years now, most of those years spent at the newspaper's grubby world (my old editor's words, not mine).  I love sharing insights I've learn from writing and business, but mostly from parenting because let's face.  We're moms first.
A Work-At-Home Mom Makes A Confession The moment I found out I was pregnant, my husband and I planned that I would quit my job at the local newspaper. I vowed to never return to the newspaper for many reasons, but this didn’t mean I would give up writing for good. Now it’s more than three years later, and I’m happy to say that I didn’t give up writing. I don’t sit at a desk from 8 to 4. Instead, I sit in my home office space when my daughter sleeps, plays with Daddy or during any other spare moment. Do you know what this means?
Sure, I get to be a stay-at-home mom, a wonderful experience for any lady with the circumstances to do it. I've been the first to see all her milestones, hear her first words, teach her the alphabet.
I also see on a daily basis her violent tantrums and mouthy rebuttals. I’m the cook, housekeeper, doctor, frightener of monsters. I do it all while squeezing in blogging, marketing and networking around the cracks and corners of the day. So, what’s my confession? Sometimes, I wish I went to the office. I wish my schedule was set in stone from 8 to 4, or even 12 to 2, as a time for writing. I’m not saying an office job is easier than a home job or vice versa. It’s simply tough being a mother, no matter where you work. I’m saying that while I don’t regret my decision to work at home, I wonder if there’s greener grass.

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Tuesday
Aug032010

Study finds that "Working Moms are fine for kids"

A working mother that I follow on twitter linked to this NYT Blog (Motherlode) The title is "Working Moms are Fine for Kids". Spoiler alert:  Mother's who return to work do not irrevocably damage their kids. I remain steadfast in my belief that returning to work after having a baby is a personal decision.  In my opinion both options, returning to work or being a stay-at-home Mother, work just fine for children.  Happy families is best and whatever gets your family to that happy place is all that should matter. For those of you who felt the research showed you were "harming your children" by choosing to return to work here is evidence to the contrary. As someone who had to go through this decision personally I know it can be a tough one.  In the end, I decided to return to work and it was the right decision for me.

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Tuesday
Jul132010

An older, tired-looking dog.

I have no idea where this story originated, but it was sent to me by a dear friend this evening.  Working Mothers will especially get a chuckle.  Enjoy! ************************************************ An older, tired-looking dog wandered into my yard. I could tell from his collar and  well-fed belly that he had a home and was well  taken care of. He  calmly came over to me, I gave him a few pats on  his head; he  then followed me into my house, slowly walked  down the hall,  curled up in the corner and fell  asleep. An  hour later, he went to the door, and I let him  out. The next day he was back, greeted me in  my yard, walked inside and resumed his spot in  the hall and again slept for about an  hour. This continued off and on for several  weeks. Curious I pinned a note to his collar:  'I would like to find out who the owner of this wonderful sweet dog is and ask if you are  aware that almost every afternoon your dog comes  to my house for a nap.' The next day he  arrived for his nap, with a different note pinned to his collar: 'He lives in a home with 6 children, 2 under the age of 3 - he's  trying to catch up on his sleep. Can I come  with him  tomorrow?'

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